All of us are capable of being broken. It’s fine to cry, to scream, and let it all out. Give yourself a time to heal and restore the brokenness in you.
But how can we restore a broken heart?
I was broken several times, in different ways, in different situations, and because of different people who I am surrounded with. But hey! I made it! And I know that I will make it through no matter what! Why? How? Because I have my God, who knows how to restore the broken. I have a God, who has a purpose for my pain. I have a God who has a reason for allowing things to happen. And I have a God, who LOVES me so much; who loves us so much. All we need to do is to trust His will; to follow His ways; and to LOVE him and have faith.
I can still remember how a bible verse changed my ways of thinking about life and pain. I was 12 years old back then, when I attended a Sunday Mass. While I was listening to the homily of the priest, he suddenly asked “What’s your favourite bible verse?” Everyone was talking and trying to say out loud their favourite bible verse. However, I was so blank that time, not because of the noise around, it is because I can’t even remember one bible verse, knowing that I am studying in a Catholic school. What a shame!!!! Then the priest shared his favourite bible verse, Corinthians 13: 4-7, which was also the first reading that Sunday. He read it out loud and I can still feel the goose bumps I had that time, hearing every word coming out from his mouth.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
When I got home, I opened the bible and read Corinthians 13 several times. But reading it was still not enough. So, what I did was, I grabbed a pen and a paper, and I wrote down everything and started to reflect on each sentence.
Love is patient, love is kind.
Patient love bears with offenses and does not eager to punish the offender. Instead, it looks for ways to help the offender to learn from his/her mistakes. Patient love knows how to wait. We often see patient love from God; we make never-ending mistakes, but He was still there, loving us and guiding us to His way.
I believe that kindness is how we treat others. However, I also believe that kindness is still based on the intention of doing good to others. It might also take the form of a gentle rebuke when careful and rightful discipline is needed.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
Love should not be jealous. We are often corrupted by being envy of what others have. However, a person who knows how to love also knows how to appreciate and how to rejoice when others are blessed with good things.
Love that does not boast knows that your own value and worthiness will never be measured on your achievements in life. In addition, it does not underestimate and does not exalt itself over others.
Lastly, love should not be proud, it should not be characterised by self-importance or arrogance. It knows how to live in humility.
It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love knows how to respect others regardless of their status and position in life. A person who knows how to love, must know how to acknowledge the concern of others and will never act dishonorably or disgrace other person.
It should not prioritize things based on his/her own good. Instead, he/she must know how to put first the good of others and places God first above all.
Love knows how to forgive and will not let anger control his/her heart and mind. Love is selfless.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
Truth! Love should be according to truth at all time. It will not tolerate evil doings of others and will not let temptation to dominate his/her mind, heart, and soul.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love should not harm, shame, and damage others. Love knows how to trust others, regardless of how many times he/she became broken because of trusting. It hopes for the best of everyone and will still continue to love no matter what.
From that day, I started to live in accordance with this bible verse. I started to pause and pray when I am running out of patience. I also became mindful in examining my intentions in everything that I will do. I am trying my very best to treat others in a very good way even if I had a bad day. I am always praying to have a heart that will speak with humility and will only speak the truth; a heart that will see the greatness with other people. I also learned how to acknowledge and recognise my own strengths and weaknesses and use those to inspire and motivate others. I was also able to learn that I cannot make it without God and without those people who loves me and who hurts me. I started not to measure my own value and worthiness based on what I already achieved in life, or even based on my past. I seek more of truth and start to resist lies. I started to celebrate my neighbours’ victory and to pray for the success of others. I still trust in spite of million betrayals I experienced in life. I became more selfless and still working on it. I am now 22 years old but still on the process of loving myself and others in God’s way. I know that it’s hard to risk your life several times in loving, but one thing I am sure of LOVE NEVER FAILS. My life never became easier learning these things, actually, it sometimes became harder. But, my heart, mind, and soul became stronger for I know that I am being LOVED by God, especially when times get tough and I was able to survive. Love when it hurts! Love harder. Pray harder.
“GOD REALLY KNOWS HOW TO RESTORE THE BROKEN! He never failed to love us, that’s why we are still here! That’s why we are still loving others because we believe that it can restore the brokenness within us.”
There will be a million reasons to stop loving. We might experience several betrayals in life; we might experience living with the lies of others; we might experience being abused by others; we might experience being prison of poverty, depression, discrimination, and even of our past. But, always remember, that God will never stop loving us, and we should take His love to heal our broken hearts. We should humble our hearts and recognise that we cannot do it without His love. We should also be an instrument of love to others. We might think that our experiences were the most horrible thing in this world, and we might underestimate the pain of others, but we should remember that it will never be the level and length of the pain. Because not all of us are gifted of the strength to overcome those, and others might need us to feel the love from God so they can hold on
Always remember, that all of us are not only capable of being hurt, we are also capable of loving.
“God restores the broken through LOVE!”